I still can’t believe it’s been FOUR years since I started this blog — and over SEVEN years since I started my organizing business!
Time flies 🙂
Over the past 3 years — going from working part-time from home with no kids to full-time from home with 2 kids — I’ve definitely had to make many adjustments with how I balance both my work and personal lives. I’ve slowed down in some areas, devoted more time to other areas, said “no” a lot, and gotten used to much less sleep (mostly because of sleepless children!)
Since Simon was born, I’ve gotten many questions asking what my work + life balance looks like with 2 kids. And since Simon is almost 6 months old already, I figured it was time for an update!
I’m still working as a Virtual Assistant (VA) for 4 different clients. I’ve been with 3 of the clients for several years, and just added the 4th client right before Simon was born (good timing, I know!)
I put in approximately 15-20 hours a week TOTAL for my VA work.
I spend about 10 hours a week writing 5 blog posts for my blog — which includes drafting them, writing them, taking and editing pictures, and various other odds and ends involved in getting the 5 posts ready to publish.
I have another 5 hours (or more) involved in reading and responding to comments, facebook messages, emails, ad inquiries, etc.
I recently quit some of my duties for one VA and stopped writing a couple of my regular monthly posts for various websites — both in attempts to free up more time.
I say “no” to pretty much every other business-related request for my time — except a few local speaking engagements from time to time.
On a slow week, I might only work 30 hours, and on a busy week, it might be closer to 45. However, the important thing to realize is that I am in full control over every single one of my business-related responsibilities and can basically do whatever I want, whenever it works for me.
Aside from a few loose deadlines for my VA work, I can work my job requirements around whatever else is going on in my personal and family life. This is the main reason I’ve been able to swing the ‘working full-time from home with kids’ gig (not to mention, helpful family members who sometimes offer to take Nora off my hands for a couple hours!)
I find it so interesting that when I first started working from home 7+ years ago, never once did I even consider this is what my business would (or could) look like. I didn’t even know what a blog was back then — and I’m not sure if a “Virtual Assistant” was even an actual job. Now, here I am, making a living doing something I didn’t even understand a few years ago!
We still have yard work to do, but we should be able to finish that before it gets too cold — if not, it can always wait until spring 🙂
Both kids are doing well — Nora is potty trained during the day, and Simon is growing like a weed.
Nora is completely finished with any shred of a nap and Simon is just starting to transition from several shorter naps to a couple longer naps — both of these changes should make getting out and about much easier.
Bedtime is also going quite well! Simon has always gone to bed very early (around 6:30pm) and after 2.5 years of struggling with Nora, we have finally managed to move her bedtime up to 7:30 or 8:00 (a huge improvement from 10:30 or 11:00). This means Dave and I usually have 3+ hours to work on house projects, yard projects, work projects, or just hang out after the kids go to bed. This is totally new for us — and speaking for myself, I love it!
I’m still not crazy about the baby stage of life, but I’m surviving and actually enjoying Simon’s baby phase.
Nora is full-blown “terrible twos” and “cuter than cute” all at the same time (I won’t lie… I love all of it!) She’s learning so much and I feel like she turned into a little girl this summer.
Dave is heading back to school in less than 2 weeks for his TENTH year of teaching!
As with all things in life, there are good days and bad days — but there is no doubt that life with 2 kids has been significantly easier than Dave and I were anticipating (although I was preparing myself for the absolute worse-case scenario.)
I LOVE having a teacher husband in the summer; however, I’m not sure I’m quite ready for Dave to go back to school yet. Yes, we know how lucky we are to both be home all summer — we just need to figure out our new normal for life after school starts again.
All in all, when it comes to balancing my work, personal, home, and family life, I would say things are going better than I expected. This does not mean there aren’t stressful days, this does not mean everything always (or even ever) runs according to plans, and it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t do things differently if I had a “do-over”.
It just means that we’re “rolling with the punches” and constantly trying our best to adjust to the ever-changing needs of a busy toddler, a growing infant, house projects, an at-home business, and life as a family of 4.
If I’m honest, there are days I strongly consider throwing in the towel and quitting all my work-related responsibilities (I’m sure any working person can relate) but then I realize how much a enjoy doing all the different things I do each day, and how lucky I am to pack it all in every day.
Working and doing something that feels useful and productive makes me a better mom, being a mom makes me a much more relatable blogger, and blogging is just good for my soul.
All the pieces seem to fit together so well right now, and I hope that if /when we have more children, I’ll continue to find the right balance between everything. I’m certain it will not be easy, but in my opinion, it’s totally worth it!